My Life Before Erectile Dysfunction Treatment
I am a 30 years old. Although I was born in England I am from a traditional Bangladeshi family and so is my wife. I started suffering symptoms of erectile dysfunction a few years back and noticed an increasing decline. First it didn’t bother me, and I took Viagra from my GP. I also tried a number of herbal remedies from Bangladesh. Later on, I saw a private Urologist, who suggested that it was more in my mind. But at the time, I didn’t have any real pressures. As time progressed, I had a sinking feeling that my ED was getting worse, nothing I tried seemed to help and I was in denial. Unlike other conditions, Erectile Dysfunction is not something you can talk about with friends, so I guess I just bottled it up.
A year before I approached MansMatters I had new excitement and with it, pressures. I met a wonderful Bangladeshi girl, who was the perfect complement to me. She came from my culture, but with a modern-day British outlook: combining the best of culture and living in the UK. We decided to get married. In my community marriage is a huge event and considered more than just two people. It is considered a union of two families. But it doesn’t stop there, with marriage comes expectations: huge expectations that you will start a family and strengthen the union.
Although deep down I knew my ED had been getting worse, I put it down to the pressure of the wedding and convinced myself that I would be able to consummate the marriage and it would be the start of a wonderful new life together. But to my dismay on my wedding night, I was unable to perform enough for successful intimacy and things just didn’t get any better. My mind started to play havoc with me and whenever we tried intimacy, it ended in failure. My wife was very understanding but I knew deep down she was bitterly disappointed. It wasn’t something that I had discussed with her before we got married and although she accepted it, I felt ashamed that I wasn’t a proper man. My confidence dropped, and it started affecting my work. To make it worse, other friends who got married at similar times were all moving on and expanding their families. It became a constant reminder of what we were missing.
It didn’t take long before the questions started coming. First to my wife and later to me, ‘when is the baby due’. Both my mother and mother-in-law were on my wife’s case, and I felt helpless. I knew it was my fault, not my wife’s. But she was the one that was feeling the pressure. I started becoming withdrawn and dreading and avoiding social events.
After several months of marriage and struggling and honest and tearful conversations with my wife I realised I needed real help. That’s when I first found MansMatters.
Contacting MansMatters and my first appointment with Mr Almashan.
Picking up the courage to contact a clinic wasn’t easy at the time. In retrospect it should have been, but I felt very awkward. It is stupid really, if I had had another medical condition I wouldn’t have thought twice, but with Erectile Dysfunction there is such a stigma. I felt that people I spoke to would laugh at me or not take me seriously. I had no idea at the time that Erectile Dysfunction was so widespread.
I found MansMatters online by doing an online Google search for ‘Specialist Erectile Dysfunction Clinics in London’, and they came very highly recommended. I was encouraged by the fact that all their treatments were non-invasive and non-surgical. One of the Urologists I had spoken to before had suggested penile implants, which sounded awful. MansMatters had some very impressive case studies where they had helped people.
The website was rich with information and what I found really helpful was that they had videos for each of their treatments. Plus, they had an extensive section where men had handwritten testimonials. It looked very promising.
I filled out an online response and got an immediate response back offering me a free 20-minute consultation, which I confirmed, and in less than two hours, a very nice gentleman called me.
He was extremely understanding over the phone and I felt that for the first time I could speak with someone completely openly. He told me that this is what he did every day, speaking to one man after another with penile problems. He assured me that many men go through exactly the same feelings as me and I wasn’t alone. There was no rush, and I asked copious questions and ended up speaking to him for over 30 minutes on the phone. He felt that MansMatters could definitely help me and invited me to the clinic to see Mr Almashan. He also suggested bringing my wife with me, which surprised me, and we took him up on this offer.
I still felt a bit nervous walking into Shockwave Clinics with my wife (the group company name of MansMatters). It was a spotless clinic, very near Harrods in Knightsbridge in London, so easy to get to by the tube. But I was immediately put at ease by the staff who were extremely welcoming and noticed that other men finishing their treatment had developed a close relationship with their consultants. It wasn’t the stuffy medical environment that I had expected. I was surprised that many of their clients seemed so buoyant. I certainly wasn’t.
Mr Almashan was so different to other consultants and Urologists I had spoken to. He seemed to almost naturally put me at ease very early on. He explained that it wasn’t just me that was affected, it was my wife as well. I was very surprised at how my wife then opened up to him. It made me realise that it had really affected her as well and she had been feeling that I didn’t find her attractive. In retrospect I don’t know how I could have missed something so obvious.
Mr Leon Almashan went through a detailed clinical appraisal and asked questions about my health, medication and lifestyle, and performed various blood tests. He listened very carefully from the moment we started talking to both my wife and me. There was no rush and no awkwardness.
For the first time, I spoke honestly about the pressure I was feeling, from family, from society, and from myself. Mr Almashan was very understanding. He explained erection problems clearly. I left the appointment with something I hadn’t had for a long while, hope.
The Treatment Plan
Mr Almashan diagnosed me with vasculogenic Erectile Dysfunction and put together a treatment plan of three technologies.
This included:
Extracorporeal Focused Shockwave Therapy (EFSWT). This consisted of a shockwave being emitted into my penis to produce new blood vessels and new nerve tissues.
Electro Magnetic Transduction Therapy. This worked on the tiny cells within the millions of blood vessels to improve the communication between cells.
NanoVi Exo. This reduced oxidative stress, one of the factors causing my erectile dysfunction.
Lifestyle advice. Providing practical suggestions to lower stress and improve intimacy.
He explained that it was unlikely that I would get instant results, but given my condition, the improvement would come gradually over several weeks. He was very honest in setting expectations.
The Treatment Experience
Although I had been told that the treatment was non-invasive, I was concerned that it would hurt. I had been told that the shockwaves penetrate at 1500 metres a second and cause a micro trauma: that is when they hit the millions of blood vessels, they cause the blood vessels to split and multiply, causing many millions more blood vessels, allowing more blood to rush in, causing stronger and more sustained erections.
The treatment was very high tech: my private parts were put on a specially designed ‘penis table’ and the shockwave probe was lowered over my penis and moved along exact positions. The shockwaves didn’t hurt at all. In fact, they felt like a very soft rubber band flicking on my penis.
At the same time, I had a nasal cannular attached to me and the NanoVi Exo treatment was running alongside the Shockwave. It felt very soothing and healthy.
After the Shockwave, another high-tech piece of equipment called the Electro Magnetic Transduction Therapy was used. I could hardly feel it at all. So overall, the promise of pain-free was spot on.
After three sessions, I started to notice changes. I was waking up with morning erections and I felt much more in tune with my body. By the fifth session, things had improved a lot. My erections were firmer and more natural. For the first time ever, I was able to have true intimacy with my wife. I can’t describe the emotions. It was a mixture of pride, exhilaration, tremendous relief and also closeness. It wasn’t just the physical side; it was hugely emotional for both of us.
The Final Treatment
At the final treatment, both my wife and I attended. My wife wanted to thank Mr Almashan for what he had done for us. Everything was working as it should. Mr Almashan spent more time with us. He undertook the treatment as normal but explained how to maintain the results with healthy habits. He also explained that there was an eight-week review by telephone, and we should get back in touch to arrange it.
Life After Treatment – From Struggle to Fatherhood
A few months later, our lives changed completely. My wife rang me up whilst I was at work and told me she was expecting. I was so overcome with emotion that my work colleagues thought there was something wrong and didn’t realise I had become overwhelmed with happiness. I couldn’t believe it at first. When the news sank in, I felt overwhelming gratitude to Mr Almashan, not only because we were finally going to be parents, but because of everything it meant for us after all the worry.
Nine months later, the most important card I sent was to Mr Almashan and it simply said:
“Thank you. I’m a dad now”.
That message was from the heart. The treatment didn’t just restore my physical health, it gave me back my confidence and my future.
In my community, there’s still a lot of silence around men’s health, but I now tell friends who may be struggling that help is out there. You don’t have to hide it or feel ashamed. Getting proper help was the best decision I ever made.
Looking back, I wish I had contacted MansMatters sooner. I spent years in silence when real help was available. Today, my wife and I are preparing to welcome our second child, something we once thought might never happen..
Reflection from Mr Leon Almashan- Lead Medical Consultant MansMatters.
For our whole team, this was a powerful reminder of why we do what we do. Not just treating ED, but giving men back their lives, relationships, and futures.
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